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SUPER EASY and DELICIOUS Peanut Butter Pie!

4 Nov

Peanut Butter Pie!I am a HUGE lover of peanut butter… But even more than that, I love peanut butter and chocolate together.  When I was a kid, and to this very day, one of my all time favorite birthday cake recipes includes a deliciously peanut-buttery frosting on a decadently moist chocolate cake! Yum! Therefore, it should be no surprise to you that anytime I run across a peanut butter and chocolate recipe I have to take a look.  Recently, I stumbled on this recipe and decided to give it a whirl, and boy oh boy it did NOT disappoint!

The recipe I am including can be found on The Pioneer Woman website but I want to tell you about a couple changes I made, mostly for convenience… Since I last blogged I started my own business and so I don’t have quite as much time as I once did.  Still, I love to make at least one dessert per week from scratch…Er, sort of scratch… Even with a little help from the grocery store, it’s still so much better than anything you can buy pre-made!  Here goes:

1) Although I think that a homemade crust would be better than a store-bought crust, I decided to opt for a store-bought Oreo crust for convenience. I know, I know, a store-bought PROCESSED crust!!?  Please kindly close your mouths! 🙂  I GENERALLY buy organic and non-processed foods, but you know what?  Every now and then I think it’s just fine to take a little help! So trust me on this, if you want to, BUY THIS CRUST, it’s easy and tastes ALMOST as good as the one you would have made!

2) Trust this recipe! I know Dr. Oz and the media has scared the CRAP out of us about partially hydrogenated soy bean oil and corn syrup… So why would you EVER purchase cool whip? (Unless you’re from the south where I am pretty sure it’s a constant staple for potlucks and church gatherings)  But here, in this recipe, you have to use it.  Pioneer Woman says so, and although I haven’t tried a substitution in this particular recipe, I have in others and it seems to create a less creamy and short lived pie… Again, it’s not like you’re eating tons of stuff with cool whip in it! You get your nails done, you dye your hair, an occasional pie with cool whip isn’t gonna kill you, so DO NOT TRY TO SUB WHIPPED CREAM FOR COOL WHIP! IT WON’T BE THE SAME! 

3)  Save the whipped cream as a topper! 🙂 This pie is really rich! I think it’s made even more wonderful with some deliciously fresh whipped cream! It just lightens everything up a bit!

4) Crumble some cookies on top!  I actually took some Oreos and crumbled them onto the top.  It’s not necessary, but it sure was tasty! Sprinkles would be nice too!

5) The longer you let it set, the firmer it gets! It was almost tastier the next day!Cupcake

Ingredients: If making this with the pre-made crust the recipe takes about 5 minutes to whip up if you’ve thawed your ingredients! So simple! So Good!

FOR CRUST

  • 25 whole Oreos
  • 4 Tablespoons Butter, Melted
  • Or 1 store bought chocolate cookie shell!

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PEANUT BUTTER FILLING:

  • 1 cup Creamy Peanut Butter
  • 1 package (8 Ounce) Softened Cream Cheese
  • 1-1/4 cup Powdered Sugar
  • 1 package (8 Ounce) Cool Whip, Thawed

Preparation Instructions

Crust:
Crush the Oreos until they’re fine crumbs. Pour melted butter over the top and stir with a fork to combine. Press into pie pan and bake at 350 degrees for 5 to 7 minutes, or until set.

Remove from oven and allow to cool completely.

*Or do nothing because you bought your pie shell pre-made

FILLING:
Whip the peanut butter with the cream cheese until smooth, slowly add in powdered sugar and beat until smooth. Mix in the thawed Cool Whip and beat until smooth, scraping the sides as needed.

Pour filling into crust, smoothing  the surface with a spatula. Allow to set in the fridge for at least one  hour before serving.

Pie!

“You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.”

21 Feb
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Etsy by DaisyChic

Hello my fabulous Glitterati… Long time no BLOG! I know, you can’t believe it, after nearly 2 weeks of web silence… I think I am back.  I’m pretty sure I’ve decided for this post, I might get a little more personal, and share with you what I’ve learned in these last two weeks… because yes, it is certainly surprising what you can learn in two weeks when life manages to throw you a few curve balls… Sometimes, even in spite of all your best efforts, it’s hard to find your happiness DARN IT!

About a year and a half ago, I lost one of the best friends of my life, very suddenly.  And I am telling you this because this week, I’ve thought about my dear friend Christine quite a bit and was reminded of some of the best lessons we learned together in our 10-year friendship…  To start, I remember talking to Christine once about some of the struggles we have endured in our lives, and how now and then, no matter how much work is done to heal; emotionally, through therapy, or just via the wonderful nature of time and growth, sometimes these struggles of our youths or those of our lives can suddenly and without warning come right back to rear their ugly little heads.

I remember describing it to Christine, one day when she was nursing some of her own ‘stuff’, as a deep wound that has been mended and even though the pain is gone and the skin is smooth something large or small happens in life, and almost if by magic the wound is reopened and you have to deal with it.  This is just part of life, and it’s good to be aware of those spots in our lives so we can remember two things: 1) Time will heal most things, including re-opened wounds (thank the Lord!) and 2) “Be kind; Everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle (Plato).”

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These last 2 weeks have been hard for me, some of my oldest and newest wounds were reopened, and I just wasn’t prepared.  And, life being… well, life, my husband was also having a difficult two weeks too.  If any of you are married to your best friend like I am, this means you take on your spouse’s burden too, and vise versa… The good news is, generally, we can lean on each other, another lesson I learned from my friend Christine “We can’t all collapse at the same time, we need to fall apart at different times so we can slap each other out of it!” Of course, sometimes this just doesn’t happen, and the people we normally lean into are struggling too… Which can make things much more difficult.

Next, an ugly situation arose… A person who I use to call friend, committed what in my eyes is an “Unforgivable Curse” (I may be watching too much Harry Potter).  After standing up for what I felt was right in an uncomfortable situation (and to be fair this person thought they were doing the same thing as well) this … ehem, friend, basically slandered my FULL name on The Facebook. I was so saddened and mortified… But I learned a few things from this that I want to share with you all, I think they are things you already know, but I realized I hadn’t really ever thought about them… 1) DO NOT EVER POST SOMEONE’S NAME IN A PUBLIC FORUM SO THAT YOU CAN FEEL VALIDATED, no matter how wronged you may feel.  It’s just not right, and that is all I have to say about that.  2) If one of your friends doesn’t follow rule number #1 and slanders a friend, or a person in a public forum, think about what I am about to say.  Most likely, you do not know both sides of the story, so commenting in a negative manor, or ‘liking’ said post, doesn’t really do anything positive for the poster, even if you feel that you are helping.  How would you feel if the rolls were reversed? 3) Stand up for yourself! It’s not ok to give in to people who bully you!!  This is what was so sad about this post, I felt as if this person didn’t get what they wanted, to so they decided to potentially harm me emotionally, or even professionally.

Winston Churchill once said “You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.” While I don’t think one should go about making enemies, and you must always ask yourself how an enemy was created and take responsibility on your end if you did wrong in YOUR EYES; it’s taken me a long time to be ok with having them.  You just can’t please everyone all of the time and still have a life that is fulfilling FOR YOU.  And trust me here, no one but you is accountable for the life you live and the happiness you obtain therein.  I read something along these lines in a commencement speech once, which unfortunately I cannot find, but these words really put my heart at ease, simply because it’s the TRUTH!  It’s OK to be disliked by some people; sometimes it’s just a byproduct of standing up for yourself, or standing strong for something you believe in. (However, it’s not an excuse to be a jerk 🙂 )

At the end of these weeks, both my hubby and me were just feeling drained, or what my beloved Lucy from ‘I Love Lucy’ would say “BLAHHHHHH”. The two of us had a full-blown case of the Blahs. I might even use the word depressed… Yep, I know, this beacon of happiness got VERY BLUE, and I knew it, but I couldn’t get out of it… So I put some plans in action!!

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First, I took stock of what I had; one of the things that literally touched me into tears was that some people had stood up for me in the afore mentioned post.  Really, people didn’t have to, they really didn’t… I mean these were brave people to speak out against this, and when I saw it, I was so uplifted.  And that was step one; Next, I decided I needed a break, and so, even though I hated to do it because I LOVE my clients, and of course it’s how I pay my bills, I decided to take a day off.  I cannot tell you how an impromptu day off can lift the spirits…  It did so in the same way I always say a good night’s sleep or a nice hot shower does.  Finally, my hubby and I decided to not watch anything on T.V. that would jostle our delicate senses… So we watched Harry Potter… full of childlike fantasy and magic, it took our minds right off the daily stresses and helped lighten the mood.

Just to round it out, here is the biggest secret for getting out of the blues, and it’s something you already know, something I already knew, and something I talked in depth about with my dear friend days before she passed.  The secret is to let go of what you cannot control.  And what dear friends can you control? Not a thing. NOT A THING.  This IS easier said than done, and really it can’t be forced, you have to go through the range of emotions, even if you have it in your head and know it to be true, you have to arrive at the place of letting-go before the burden of a bad day or a week can suddenly and swiftly take flight from your being.

So here I am, sharing this with you, in case any of you are having a hard time or will and hopefully these words will bring you comfort.  It’s going to be ok. I promise. It really is, things tend to end up in the rights. Take care of yourself. Be gentle with yourself and your support. Ask for help, even if it’s just an ear, or someone to make you dinner… It’s ok if someone doesn’t like you. You’ll live, and they’ll live. Sometimes it can be fixed, and sometimes it just can’t, and that’s ok too. You’re going to be ok.

Happy Thursday Everyone!

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Happiness Tip: Live Your Happiness OUT LOUD ~ Fake it Till You Make it!

3 Feb

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Well my dearest friends, I really do think we live in a funny little world.

I have found that days or weeks could go by without ever hearing anyone say anything truly spectacular about their everyday lives.

I mean, I cannot tell you how often I ask people “How have you been” and hear in response a regurgitation of all the awful things that happen or have happened to them in the last year, month, day, or hour… The thing is, and I’ve said this before, I think we live in a society that loves to hear the crappy stuff. Now that’s a bold and spikey statement to swallow… You’re thinking right now, “That’s not true, I love to hear positive things” but let me elaborate…

From a young age I was taught not to be boastful or a braggart; not to be conceited or over-confident in myself or in the life I live…Meanwhile, in the same breath, I was told to have self-confidence and self-esteem, to be both happy and positive as well as grateful for all the things that I have… But here’s the question: How can we do and be all those things if all we hear around us is negative? Or put simply: How can we focus on the positive if all we talk about is the negative?

And now, a story: Once I met a woman who I asked very casually, as I do most people I meet, “How are you?” … To my utter and complete surprise, this seemingly normal gal beamed right back at me “I am sooo good!”

WOW!!! I was so taken aback that I instantly smiled and let her know how rare it was to get such a radiant and cheerful answer like hers back. She proceeded to tell me why she was so good… She hadn’t won the lotto or married her perfect mate… nor did she have the job of her dreams… but she was happy with the day, with the sun and some free time, and yes, her husband who she loved and her small child who she was happy to be away from at the moment… This proclamation really got me thinking about ME. How do I respond when people ask me about ME?

Not long ago, I had fallen victim to the daily ‘bitch-session” with some of my close friends. We didn’t talk about the happy or wonderful things in our lives, only about the rotten things. I would leave the conversations feeling low and dull, not at all happy and uplifted… Not how I felt when I left the conversation with the cheerful stranger mentioned before (who I never saw again but clearly changed my thinking pattern! Thanks stranger!!!!)… With these friends, I rarely brought the good stuff up because I didn’t think anyone wanted to hear it… Think about it, when someone says how in love they are or how happy they are, often we say some smart-ass comment about a genuine and truly positive feeling (I even do this!). We don’t mean to do it; we’ve just been programmed that way!

From that moment on, I vowed to really think about how I was going to answer that question when asked, and how I would speak about a life I really do love (in spite of some really crappy things that can, and do, and will happen).

DISCLAIMER: I’m not suggesting that you lie here people. You’re allowed to have crappy days, or a broken heart, PMS, or just run of the mill bad luck! I’m not implying that you should become a pre-programed Stepford wife! If something’s wrong, and you have friends that you trust who can support you and you can lean into, then tell them; I want to know, I want to help if I can. But DO NOT LET THESE THINGS CONSUME YOU OR YOUR RELATIONSHIPS!!!! You have to make the choice yourself, your peers won’t do that for you, your spouse can’t even do it for you. If you are the somebody who only dishes the negative, trust me, you are doing your relationships AND yourself a disservice.

This week try to Live Your Happiness OUT LOUD, Live Your Life out loud. I’m going to do the same thing! If you’re stuck in the habit of sharing only the crappy parts, sharing the good stuff will feel like bragging at first, it won’t come easy, but FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT (something I learned from my dear friend Christine). That is, just TRY to be MORE positive. Positivity is infectious AND it grows exponentially once shared, especially with people you love and adore. Trust me on this (or you can just be miserable); I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum!

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Happiness is a CHOICE

18 Jan

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I’m pretty certain, on most days that happiness is a choice. Today is Friday, so for most of us that’s reason to be enough to be happy… But what if you work on Saturday? How can you achieve the same level of happiness all day that the rest of the weekend lovers have?

I say, really, CHOOSE happiness today. No matter what!

For me, it’s the knowledge that I am having dinner after work with a dear friend AND get to see so many people AT work that I adore AND actually, my co-workers make me laugh!!

Find your happiness today no matter how small it is!
Happy weekend Y’all!

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Happiness Tip: Do One Thing Everyday for YOU!

14 Jan

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Happiness Tip ☺

Many of you may already do this, but don’t take the time to actually think about it…

Do one thing for you and only you every single day. Let it be a moment that makes you smile to yourself and feel gratitude for the moment. You don’t have to tell anyone about it and it can be your secret; or, how about you brag about it! I think our society lends itself much easier to the negativities of the day rather than the small happiness’s that are so abundant! Doing things for yourself can often feel selfish or look selfish to others, so says our society, but I say you’ll be much happier if you do!

Now, a story…
Once, I was a Starbucks JUNKIE! Sometimes my hubby and I would lay tired in bed and dream of the next mornings Starbucks run (Who am I kidding, we still do). Literally, we talk about our excitement for the next morning’s coffee before drifting off to bed!!

After much thought and consideration, and one really nice espresso machine given to us for our wedding, I decided to do a little research into how to make the perfect morning iced espresso for myself. I started with cheaper Safeway roasts but after speaking to many coffee enthusiasts, mainly from Europe (my supreme belief is that Europe contains all my foodie lusts)… I decided to invest, once every 3 weeks, in the coffee of my dreams… To some, it’s not the most expensive, but to me $15 is a lot to spend on a can of coffee… But my Starbucks drinks were quickly becoming much more expensive at around $4 a pop! I made a quirky little coffee nook with the sugar carefully placed in the cutest little bowl and I even have a special jug for my creamer with the fanciest little cups to pour my espresso in… Frivolous, yes, but oh so marvelous for ME!

Each dawning, no matter how painful getting out of bed might seem, my first thought of the morning is not what I have to do, but that moment… My moment. Alone with something special I have given myself… slightly extravagant and all mine.

This week, you should try this. Think of something that can be yours, your moment and gift to yourself every single day that you can enjoy. Maybe yours is a trip to Starbucks or reading 10 minutes of Perez Hilton in the morning. Allow yourself that and while you’re doing it, smile!! Cheesy, yes, but I’m telling you it works!!!!!

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